My Ex-Husband Affected My Career Badly - Tope Osoba

The popular Nollywood actress Tope Osoba, who is a well-known name in the Yoruba genre of the Nigerian movie industry, has talked about her career and relationships.

The Abeokuta-born actress joined the movie industry about a decade ago after featuring in star actress Laide Bakare’s blockbuster movie titled “Ijo ya”.

Tope, in a new interview with Playgrounds TV has revealed how she suffered abuse by her former husband and how he affected her career negatively.

She also talked about her debut movie titled “Single Ladies”, which premiered at Time Square Events Center, Ikeja, Lagos, on Sunday, May 17. Read excerpts from the interview below:

What’s Single Ladies all about?

It is all about the different phases of relationships in young ladies’ lives. I am just trying to portray different relationships people have through the movie. The experiences, good, bad and ugly you will come across if you must have one as a toddler and what you have to do as solution.

Why did you decide to shoot a relationship-themed movie?

I will attribute that to my little experience I have got in keeping relationship. Things around me inspired me to choose that particular story line about relationship. I had a particular experience which I will like people to learn from.

Were you jilted?

Not like I was jilted but you know people make mistakes and sometimes we think we have the right thing which is not. At times we don’t handle things in right way and sometimes things won’t just work from the way want it to. So, what I am trying to say is that we don’t get what we want most time.

Who is the guy in question?

He is not in the industry and the relationship was like 2 to 3 years ago but it hit the rocks about a year ago.

What really happened?

It wasn’t just working. He wasn’t supporting my career; there was abuse, no true love neither trust nor I was thinking I could hold it down. Dating him dragged me down, affected my life and career negatively. I couldn’t help than to let him go, I was too weak to keep the relationship, but at the end of the day, I thank God I was able to regain my strength.

Are you in any relationship now?

Of course, yes. And the relationship is the sweetest ever. The love in my life now is my childhood friend and I guess God has plans for everything. So I will just say God is working.

Who is the lucky man in your life?

He is not an industry person. He is a neutral guy who has a good job and good life. He is like a brother to me. He is my childhood friend, we grew up in the same area, I have known him since my secondary school. We lived in the same estate; he was like a senior in my secondary school.

 How did your path cross after secondary school?

It just happened. We met again and things happened. It wasn’t smooth all the way but God will make it work perfectly.

How did you get into acting?

I never had any interest in acting. I started out as dancer and what I knew best was dancing and singing. So, I guess acting chose me because I never liked acting.

How did it happen?

One day I was coming from school and I dropped at Berger. I was tired but I decided to go to Adeniyi Jones where we used for our rehearsals. That was how I saw some actresses rehearsing for Ijoya by Laide Bakare. When I entered, Seyi Ariyo (She Baby) was like “Tope Osoba the girl I told you that she dances well and the director was like can we see what you have done before”. I showed them clips of session with Weird MC and they fell in love with it. That was how I got my first script.

Can you tell us the music stars you’ve danced for?

I have danced for Olu Maintain, Rasqui, Pasuma, Ayuba, Shanko Rasheed, and I was back-up dancer for Weird MC.

Away from the screen, who is Tope Osoba?

Many think I am a tough person but I’m just a no nonsenses person.

You sometimes play naughty roles in movies, is there a meeting point in reality?

That is why I am an actor, I should be able to interpret my script better and that doesn’t mean I am like that in real life. Playing a pastor role or prostitute, dead person or the role of armed robber doesn’t mean I am one of them, it is called make believe

WARNING: 10 Types Of Women You Should Never Marry

While we can all agree that nobody is perfect, there are actually a few things that would adversely affect a relationship if a man chooses to partner with a woman with some not-so-great attributes.

naijcom presents you with the 10 kinds of woman a man should think twice about making a wife.
1. The Bitter Woman: You know that woman that always seems to be angry at the menfolk all the time? Perhaps she has had her heart broken one too many times, but this woman is always bashing on men and talking about how they are no-good or useless. A man might not want to settle down with someone so bitter as it is guaranteed that when the opportunity arises, she would hurl hurtful insults and intense, hateful words his way due to all her unresolved anger.
2. The Selfish Woman: If you want a happy home and a partner that wants your happiness as well as hers, then you should steer clear of the selfish woman. A woman who is determined to make sure she always comes first would not be able to build a cheerful and loving home with you.

3. The Materialistic Woman: A woman obsessed with material things would certainly not make the best wife. If all she cares about are material possession over family, faith and spiritual fulfillment, then she will not make the best partner.
4. The Flirty Woman: Are you attracted to that woman that always seems to flirt with one person or another? She flirts like a butterfly from one man to another and makes all men feel like she is interested in them. Well, beware, because a habit like that might be hard to break after marriage and you would not want to start hearing that your wife has had flirty conversations with all the men in the neighbourhood.
5. The Party Freak: She is invited to every party and attends them all. She is always dressed in the most flashy clothes and is the ultimate party girl. She lives for the next big gathering and cannot say no to an invitation. Such woman might not be the type to settle down in a marriage.

6. The Spoilt-Brat: A woman who grew up having everything handed to her and has never had the experience of actually working for something is unlikely to make the best wife. No matter how much you might be willing to provide her with the kind of lifestyle she grew up with, remember, marriage comes with kids and kids require sacrifice. If she has never had to work or make sacrifices for anything in her life, it is unlikely that she would start now.
7. The Attention Seeker: While some women naturally like attention, when it becomes an obsession, then it is not a good idea. A good husband makes sure he has time for his wife, but this cannot happen 100percent of the time so a good wife should understand that.
8. The Gossip: Does she always seem to never mind her own business? Is she always focused on what someone else is doing or how someone else is living their life? Then you do not need this kind of woman as a wife. A man needs someone that would build a home with him and this requires some focus on her own plans and her own life. If she is too busy minding someone else’s business, then you are fighting a losing battle.

9. The Commitment-Phobe: A woman who finds it difficult to commit to anything (school, jobs, family, friendship, etc) would also not be able to commit to a marriage. If she seems to lose interest in everything quickly and is always looking for the next thing to jump into, then you would have a hard time keeping her focused in her marriage.
10. The Disrespectful Woman: If she seems to always be disrespectful and rude (even if it is to people she considers beneath her standards) then you need to think twice about marrying her. Respect for a fellow human being is a very important attribute in who we choose to spend the rest of our lives with so it is definitely not something that should be taken lightly.

Finger Yourself To Orgasm In 6 Simple Moves

Everyone wants an orgasm, but many men are only interested in getting in, ejaculating and getting out, denying their women a chance to experience the bliss of of orgasm. But every woman can give herself one.

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  Masturbation  Themodernman 
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Have you had an orgasm? Do you want one?

Many women have never experience the bliss of of orgasm.

Orgasm for most women comes from clitoral stimulation, not from vaginal penetration, but many men are only interested in getting in, ejaculating and getting out.

What this means is that many women will feel cheated during sexual encounters .

You can stimulate yourself, much easier if you introduce sex toys like a dildo and vibrator.

Still, with only your finger(s), you can give yourself earth-shaking orgasms without having to beg, woo or pay anyone.

This is how to do it in 7 simple steps:

1. Clean up: First thing to do is clean your hands and the entire vaginal region or risk getting infection. The hands should be washed with soap while the vulva (vagina) should be thoroughly rinsed with ONLY clean water. No soap in the honeypot!
2. Position yourself: The best position for self stimulation is to sit down on the bed (sofa) and cover the area between your legs with your palm. Slowly rub your palms up and down, increasing the tempo gradually. Soon you will very moist — and ready.
3. Level Up: When you get moist, spread your legs a little further and use two fingers to part the outer lips of your vagina.
4. Get ready: When the labia majora (outer vagina lips) are parted, you see clitoris. Gently lift the hood of the clitoris and start rubbing it gently with a finger for about 3-5 minutes.
5. Move on: As the pleasure intensifies, locate the inner lips of the vagina. It is the 2nd hole from the top of the vagina. Thrust a finger inside a number of times, staying a little longer inside with each thrust. Continue thrusting with your fingers, increasing the tempo until you notice fluid dripping from your fingers.
6. Hit the jackpot: Add more fingers fingers, move to  from 1 to 2 to 3 and 4 if possible. Some people go with all their fingers but you don't wanna get hurt. Increase the tempo until you reach orgasm.

Try it out, and you just might be giving yourself an orgasm everyday.

For the more daring ladies, adding a sex toy takes the experience to a higher level.