I remember telling my boyfriend, now fiance (and father to our child) that he had 5 years to propose. See, we were only 23 and 24 years old when we met, so there was no rush to get married anytime before that. I strongly believed that, at such a tender age, we needed time to grow as people and as a couple before we made such a huge commitment.
Around year three, he began to take me ring shopping, and we continuously spoke about each other in our futures. We made plans and was serious about moving our lives together in a certain direction.
In year four we moved in together and in year 5, one day before our 5 year anniversary, he went down on one knee and proposed. As we entered year six, I gave birth to our son (4 months after I became his fiance) and the rest is history.
Although our journey as a couple is our own, I wish to share how to make a 5 year marriage plan and why it could benefit your relationship:
1. Make a plan and stick to it: Make it clear from the beginning that marriage is a value of yours. Let him know that this is the direction you want your relationship to be going in and don’t compromise that for anything. Now, let’s now make this one of the first things you say after “Hi,” but certainly mention that in the beginning months. Once things begin to get serious, check back in. See if this is still something he wants as well and make a plan. Get a general sense of how long he wants to wait, if he wants a family. It’s important to be transparent about what you want, or you’re setting yourself up for unpleasant surprises.
2. Don’t play the role of his wife: This is incredibly important. When my fiance and I decided to move in together, I was adamant about keeping our relationship...
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