Having true friends is one of
life's greatest gifts but it doesn't mean there won't be fights between
you all. Instead of letting an argument cause you to drift apart from
your best friend, there are certain ways to reconcile and make sure you
stay as close as ever.
Jah'Kayla Sharpe of All Women Stalk lists 8 things you can do to make up with your bestfriend after an argument.
- Look at the situation from your friend's perspective: After a few days, contact your friend and ask to discuss things. There is a chance that your friend may not be ready to talk, and if that is the case, here are a few things you can say:"I want to make sure I understand where you are coming from.""Your friendship is important to me.""I want to hear you out."
- Explain your feelings in "I" and "We" terms: The best way to confront a friend about what they’ve done is to tell them how it affected you. Practice explaining the entire situation using only the words like “I” and “we,” never “you.” never tell your friend what they did to you. This will put them on the defensive and make them much less likely to listen to whatever it is you have to say (especially if you’ve misunderstood the situation). • Incorrect: “You really hurt my feelings. You attacked me, didn’t let me defend myself, and didn’t listen when I tried to bring it up again later. I don’t even think you take this friendship seriously anymore.”• Correct: “My feelings were really hurt by our fight. I felt like I was being attacked and didn’t have a chance to defend myself, even when I tried to explain things later. Our friendship means a lot to me and I really want us to work this out
- Give your friend some space: If you’ve done everything you can and your friend is still mad, they might just need time to cool down, think things over, and recover. Constantly calling, texting, emailing, and pestering them is not going to put them in a forgiving mood. And besides, it’s hard to miss somebody who’s always around.
- Apologise: If you have done something wrong, for example, said something mean to them, give a heartfelt apology. Don't just say "I'm sorry". Say, "I'm really sorry for calling you names. I didn't mean anything I said. I just wanted to be funny, but in reality, I was being an idiot. I promise I won't do it to you again".
- Talk it out/Do talk to them: Take about what you guys been fighting about. For example say what you have to say like "I didn't mean to harm you or hurt you I was just mad that day and I let it out all on you" like that so they would understand
- Don't push it: Don't try and push it, just talk it out with them. tell them that they are important to you and you guys been through a lot with each other. Just don't push it that hard, it would probably push them away from you or they will think you're just there to be her friend and do the same again
- Ask him/her to hang out over the weekend: Try hanging over with him/her over the weekend. Like go to the mall or the movies with each other. If him/her are busy try next weekend and talk about what happened
- Aftermath: After you guys made you, yes I will be kind of weird but it was worth It. You got your best friend!! Hope y'all be there till the end.
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