Naij
com
continues discovering the moods in the Nigerian society. Having taken
to the streets of Lagos and having gathered our readers’ reactions, this
time we are talking about age gaps in marriage.
Hardly ever would anyone deny that family is the most precious and important thing in our lives.
When it comes to marriage, a lot of details are taken into consideration. Some say that true love is above anything and will help to handle any family problem. The others believe that one should think hard and arrange family matters for the marriage to be a happy one.
We asked people about one of those “family conditions” wondering if it is acceptable for them to marry someone ten years older.
Women respond
One of the interviewed respondents said:
“It depends on the person involved… When you meet the kind of person you want, it becomes no barrier.”
Another woman agreed, adding that the age does not matter at all when a woman finds a “dream man”.
The lady in yellow said that an older man was even a preferable option for her, “because the guy will treat me like a baby, is going to be understanding”.
But not all the surveyed females shared this point of view. One of the participants said that ten years is too much for her.
Men respond
One of the interviewed men said that “if she is young at heart”, “if she is confident with herself”, it is ok. His position was backed by several other males who noted that the age is not the issue. Still, the other men could not imagine being in such a situation that they needed their partner to be younger.
One of them insisted that 10-year gap was fine for relationships, but not acceptable for marriage.
A lot of Naij.com readers took to Facebook to comment on the survey outcome and share their point of view on the issue:
Obiahu Jasper Chijioke: “Is only in marriage we say age is just a number, this is real for men. But for women it is not too real because their age count fastly in respect of menopause. You can’t marry a lady of 65yrs, but a man of 80yrs can marry a girl of 25yrs.”
Gbokoyi Olabisi: “Age is a number, maturity N understanding is d koko.”
Ezekiel Israel: “Thanks for the video though……..I will say to those ladies who said nope to their age mates and under…but prefer 10 nd above…bcoz of pampering ….that… there is an adage which states that A FOOL AT 40 IS A FOOL FOREVER….that is there are tendency that at 40 one can still b a fool…. so going into a marriage considering age is life entering into a bus without taking notice of who d driver is…..either a small boy or a matured man….. u know most times we see little kids and will say to his or her mother this child behaves more than his or her age…bcax of its high I.Q…so think b4 any1 get into d cell of marriage….”
Raymon Ola: “Normally men suppose to get older than his fiance, a man of 65 can marry a girl of 25yrs.”
Wisdom F Pual: “Age is not maturity anyway, am married to a woman younger than me and am enjoying the marriage,because I see her as my younger sister, so, I pet her, overlook her errors while on her part gives me due respect.”
Philus Akpos: “Age is truly just a number. When u fall in love u won’t mind age.”
But what does the statistic say about age disparity?
Based on the recent research by the USA’s Emory University, a five-year age gap statistically means you’re 18 percent more likely to divorce (versus just 3 percent with a 1-year age difference), and that rate rises to 39 percent for a 10-year age difference and 95 percent for a 20-year age gap. Generally. Although there are various factors that can influence the situation.
Still, any couple, any marriage is unique. One relationships might seem perfect from the statistical point of view, but end in a year, the others would seem totally “wrong” but turn out to be unbreakable.
American writer Maggie Reyes once said:
“Marriages are like fingerprints; each one is different and each one is beautiful.”
So may your marriage be a beautiful fingerprint. And mind that LOVE, FRIENDSHIP and RESPECT make answer to many questions.
com
continues discovering the moods in the Nigerian society. Having taken
to the streets of Lagos and having gathered our readers’ reactions, this
time we are talking about age gaps in marriage.
Screenshot from the naij.com video survey
.com video surveyHardly ever would anyone deny that family is the most precious and important thing in our lives.
When it comes to marriage, a lot of details are taken into consideration. Some say that true love is above anything and will help to handle any family problem. The others believe that one should think hard and arrange family matters for the marriage to be a happy one.
We asked people about one of those “family conditions” wondering if it is acceptable for them to marry someone ten years older.
Women respond
One of the interviewed respondents said:
“It depends on the person involved… When you meet the kind of person you want, it becomes no barrier.”
Another woman agreed, adding that the age does not matter at all when a woman finds a “dream man”.
The lady in yellow said that an older man was even a preferable option for her, “because the guy will treat me like a baby, is going to be understanding”.
But not all the surveyed females shared this point of view. One of the participants said that ten years is too much for her.
Men respond
One of the interviewed men said that “if she is young at heart”, “if she is confident with herself”, it is ok. His position was backed by several other males who noted that the age is not the issue. Still, the other men could not imagine being in such a situation that they needed their partner to be younger.
One of them insisted that 10-year gap was fine for relationships, but not acceptable for marriage.
A lot of Naij.com readers took to Facebook to comment on the survey outcome and share their point of view on the issue:
Obiahu Jasper Chijioke: “Is only in marriage we say age is just a number, this is real for men. But for women it is not too real because their age count fastly in respect of menopause. You can’t marry a lady of 65yrs, but a man of 80yrs can marry a girl of 25yrs.”
Gbokoyi Olabisi: “Age is a number, maturity N understanding is d koko.”
Ezekiel Israel: “Thanks for the video though……..I will say to those ladies who said nope to their age mates and under…but prefer 10 nd above…bcoz of pampering ….that… there is an adage which states that A FOOL AT 40 IS A FOOL FOREVER….that is there are tendency that at 40 one can still b a fool…. so going into a marriage considering age is life entering into a bus without taking notice of who d driver is…..either a small boy or a matured man….. u know most times we see little kids and will say to his or her mother this child behaves more than his or her age…bcax of its high I.Q…so think b4 any1 get into d cell of marriage….”
Raymon Ola: “Normally men suppose to get older than his fiance, a man of 65 can marry a girl of 25yrs.”
Wisdom F Pual: “Age is not maturity anyway, am married to a woman younger than me and am enjoying the marriage,because I see her as my younger sister, so, I pet her, overlook her errors while on her part gives me due respect.”
Philus Akpos: “Age is truly just a number. When u fall in love u won’t mind age.”
But what does the statistic say about age disparity?
Based on the recent research by the USA’s Emory University, a five-year age gap statistically means you’re 18 percent more likely to divorce (versus just 3 percent with a 1-year age difference), and that rate rises to 39 percent for a 10-year age difference and 95 percent for a 20-year age gap. Generally. Although there are various factors that can influence the situation.
Still, any couple, any marriage is unique. One relationships might seem perfect from the statistical point of view, but end in a year, the others would seem totally “wrong” but turn out to be unbreakable.
American writer Maggie Reyes once said:
“Marriages are like fingerprints; each one is different and each one is beautiful.”
So may your marriage be a beautiful fingerprint. And mind that LOVE, FRIENDSHIP and RESPECT make answer to many questions.
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